It's been a long sabbatical, and I've missed my byte sized space of the internet. So here I am.
A lot has changed in the year and a half since my last post. I am now happily married to the love of my life. Have transformed from a staunch desi to an unwilling NRI. From a career gal to a housewife (OK, this was not by choice. The US Visa authorities deemed it fit. So.)
The dynamics of my relationship with the boy have changed too. From distance-riven separation pangs to mild claustrophobia. From rose tinted glasses to 'aate daal ka bhaav'. From wild passion to tender companionship.
One thing however has remained unchanged. And that is our mutual need for space. I guess our relationship grew and matured on the basis of the few continents worth of space that we had between us. Even today, under the same roof, we seek our own private havens - the couch for me and the potty for him!
It is in my moments of alone time that I appreciate the 'together time' that I've been lucky to have with him. It puts the things we say and do to each other in cold, unforgiving perspective. It's also a friend who sometimes holds up a mirror to my face showing me the real me, warts and all.
If I had only one piece of relationship advice to give to someone, it would be this. Give your loved ones the privilege of some space. It'll only bring you closer.
A lot has changed in the year and a half since my last post. I am now happily married to the love of my life. Have transformed from a staunch desi to an unwilling NRI. From a career gal to a housewife (OK, this was not by choice. The US Visa authorities deemed it fit. So.)
The dynamics of my relationship with the boy have changed too. From distance-riven separation pangs to mild claustrophobia. From rose tinted glasses to 'aate daal ka bhaav'. From wild passion to tender companionship.
One thing however has remained unchanged. And that is our mutual need for space. I guess our relationship grew and matured on the basis of the few continents worth of space that we had between us. Even today, under the same roof, we seek our own private havens - the couch for me and the potty for him!
It is in my moments of alone time that I appreciate the 'together time' that I've been lucky to have with him. It puts the things we say and do to each other in cold, unforgiving perspective. It's also a friend who sometimes holds up a mirror to my face showing me the real me, warts and all.
If I had only one piece of relationship advice to give to someone, it would be this. Give your loved ones the privilege of some space. It'll only bring you closer.
